I came across this yesterday and thought it was extremely well stated and a powerful tool for success. I hope it serve you well.
A healthy approach to living should be effortless and enjoyable. Most experts proffer some variation of “no pain, no gain.” That phrase is 75% negative.
Decades of psychology have essentially shown us that positivity works better than negativity. Imagine your dentist asks you, “How often do you floss?” and your answer is, “About two days a week.” There are two ways that dentist might react. If she says, “You are a bad patient. I’m disappointed with your lack of diligent flossing,” this makes you feel bad. Guess the easiest way to prevent your dentist from say that to you again? Never go back to the dentist. Your health will most certainly degrade.
Suppose instead that when your dentist asks, “How often do you floss?” Your answer remains, ” About two days a week,” and she responds with “Great work! Lets try and that to three to four days a week the next time we meet.” You feel good. You’re a great patient with the potential to be an even greater patient. Good on you! That positive reaction makes a huge difference. But there’s something else going on here– the power of small steps that can take to your big goals.
When you set a goal like, ” Lose fifty pounds,” the chances are low that you’ll get there. If you do get there, the chance are even lower that you’ll stay there. However, if you set a goal of, “No sugary drinks today,” then it’s almost impossible not to gain momentum. Breaking big goals up into tiny, realistically achievable habits removes will power from the equation. Imagine that. Instead of battling your will power, you are taking steps forward, building momentum, and feeling better every day, every week, every month, and every year. Before you realize it, you’re living a natural, healthy, and happy life.
Big goals, broken into tiny habits-even if you fail at them from time to time-will add up to a whole greater to the sum of its parts.